For some of us this day holds more sadness than celebration because the women who nurtured and loved us as mother are no longer here in this physical realm. Those women may have been mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin, godmother or family friend. Their influence on our lives are tremendous. There are also some mothers who are spending this day without their children because they are no longer here in this physical realm. Never the less, it is still their Mother’s Day.
There will be times today when we will lose ourselves in the space of our memories of those we lost and that’s fine. Do not feel bad or apologize for the feelings that you have. This is your experience and it belongs only to you. If you feel sad, sit in that sadness until it has accomplished what it came to do. If you feel like crying, then cry for those you love and allow the tears to wash over you. If you feel more joy inside of you than you have ever felt before, sit in that joy and allow it to do what it has come to do. There is no right or wrong.
For some of us the pain of loss will feel almost unbearable, but the intensity is measured only by those who are not experiencing it. It is important to know that those you love and miss also love and miss you. I look at those moments when the sadness and the loneliness feel the heaviest as the time when my mom is the closest to me. Say all the things you are feeling to them. Let them know that you love them and miss them. But also take the time to stop and listen to them tell you just how much they love and miss you.
Happy Mother’s Day mommy, I love you!!!!!
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